How to deal with a shopping addiction
“Oh my God! There’s a sale! 40% off everything,” she shouts.
“Babe, what do you possibly need that you don’t already have? You really have a shopping addiction,” he barks.
“Oh, you silly man. You can never have too many pairs of shoes!”
Shopping addiction – the glamorous addiction
What is a shopping addiction?
People with a shopping addiction get a high from making purchases, similar to those that drink or use drugs. The temporary high they get comes from spending and buying things that make them feel better about themselves.
While research has shown that women are more likely to suffer from this disease, men are fast developing this habit as well. With the increased popularity of metro-sexual males, shopping for men has now become cool – so has the need to look better, dress better and own better stuff than the next.
Shopping spree VS Shopping addiction
You get to unwind and buy items of value, or whatever makes you happy with your hard earned money. There’s a big difference between people that go on shopping sprees and those with a shopping addiction.
Shopaholics go on ‘shopping sprees’ all the time. They do not limit themselves to spend only when they have the excess cash.
Why people develop shopping addictions
“Calling all shopaholics – 50% sale off everything. One day only.”
Think about it, you simply don’t view the guy driving the Porsche in the same light as you would the guy driving the 1993 run-down Toyota.
If you often overspend, not thinking about how you will survive for the rest of the month, there’s a big chance that you may have a shopping addiction.
Do you often overspend, even when you don’t have the money to do so?
Have you ever lied about your shopping and made it seem less serious than it actually is?
Has your shopping ever brought on feelings of guilt and shame?
Has any of your personal relationships ever suffered because of your shopping?
Do you spend money when you are angry, tired, depressed or anxious?
Do you get a rush when you shop – an unnatural feeling of happiness?
Have you ever gotten into trouble because of your shopping and yet you continue to shop?
Effects of a shopping addiction
“Babe, what did you do with your salary? You honestly can’t be broke yet?”“I know! I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to spend it all. I really don’t know what got into me,” she pleads.
“This is why I can’t trust you with anything!” With this statement hanging in the air, he storms off.
Many people buy unnecessary items that remain unused.
All side effects are interrelated. Let’s go through each of these side effects.
Financial side effects
Spending money we don’t have will result in a vicious debt cycle. Maxed out credit cards become the norm. We open new accounts and apply for new credit cards to pay for our other debt and continue shopping. Eventually we get to the point where we don’t even pay off our debt anymore, resulting in us being blacklisted.
Emotional side effects
Physical side effects
How to deal with a shopping addiction
Ceasing to make any further purchases is not a cure for a shopping addiction. If anything, it might actually makes things worse.
How to avoid a shopping binge
Sure, you might take a drive back home to fetch your cards, but we’re hoping that by the time you do that, you not in the mood to go back and spend more money you don’t have.
The key to a shopping list is not simply writing down; bread and milk. Your shopping list needs to be as specific as possible. If you need shoes, you need to write down the brand, the type of shoe you need and the budget allocated for those shoes.
Remember, you have a shopping problem – if you are presented with the opportunity, you will try to manipulate yourself into thinking that you need shoes more expensive or fancier than you actually do.
Shopping is normal. Shopping compulsively is a problem.
Shopaholics are not seen as bad as those addicted to alcohol or drugs, which fuels the addiction because it’s socially acceptable, almost cool.
There are many reasons behind why people shop compulsively, but each person would have a separate journey as each person would have their own reasons. It is up to us to identify these reasons and start working on them.
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