Mental and Physical Elasticity
Mental and Physical Elasticity
Regardless of who we are; we all have problems.
Problems have to be dealt with though. We may try and cover our problems, but eventually, and it always does, our problems catch up with us and greatly hinder our quality of life.
I was in an AA meeting, not too long ago and I heard the coolest expression; “I felt like an elastic band.”
At first, I didn’t quite understand what that meant. I really gave it some thought and then it suddenly hit me.
Elasticity is the ability of an object to return to its normal state once pulled or stretched.
An elastic band has the power to be pulled, stretched and disfigured and it the returns to its seemingly normal state once you let go of the elastic band.
At first, it appears as though the elastic band is restored to its normal state, but the more wear and tear the elastic band has, the less elasticity it has.
Most elastic bands are made to withstand a certain amount of pulling and stretching, anything more than what it is designed for has a negative impact on the elastic band.
The longer the elastic band is stretched, the less elasticity is has. Furthermore, elastic bands can be pulled, stretched and so forth multiple times, but eventually, it reaches a point where it cannot handle all the pressure anymore and it snaps.
This elastic band theory inspired today’s post.
People are like elastic bands.
We naturally come with the ability to be moulded.
There are countless examples that could illustrate this:
Think of how we go to work or school every day, we take on different roles and wear different masks to perform whatever tasks required, when we return home, we get to unwind and relax. We return to our normal state.
Think of how we deal with heartbreak after a relationship has ended; when we’re alone, we grieve, but as soon as other people surround us, again, we return to our normal state.
We learn different languages, we experience different emotions, we make new decisions everyday etc.
Point that I’m trying to make is that people are naturally born with the ability to change. We’re naturally born with elasticity.
We are like big, living, elastic bands. There are forces that control our elasticity though. In life, these forces are the decision makers, and they lead us to be stretched further or to bent in different ways.
Like elastic bands, people come with a certain threshold. There is a limit to how far we can be stretched or pulled to maintain our elasticity, anything after that causes unnecessary tension and could even cause us to snap.
When we are in a healthy state, we can handle the forces that stretch and pull us. These are healthy forces and it’s what our bodies are capable of.
Our problems are the forces that pull us, that stretch us. Our problems weigh us down.
Often, we manage to get away from our problems. We pretend as if they don’t exist or we try burying them in far and easy to forget places.
Our problems always come back and when they do, they bend us a lot more then we initially allowed ourselves to be bent.
If we don’t deal with our problems, our problems will break us. They will cause us to snap.
Imagine how hard it is to put an elastic band back together. Mending an elastic band is not impossible, but it is incredibly hard.
Think of moments when you just snap for no particular reason. You feel angry and irritated with the world and thereafter you feel guilty for going off at someone. This is because all the problems I your life have become so overwhelming that it has caused you to snap. Dealing with your problems now is not only beneficial for you, but for those around you as well.
The sooner we deal with our problems, the sooner they stop holding us down.