Self confidence vs arrogance
Self-confidence vs arrogance
Self-confident people have an attractive aura about them. Their positive and optimistic attitude towards life makes people want to be around them.
We look up to these people and think, Wow! I want what she has! In fact, self-confidence is one of the biggest character traits most people strive to achieve.
But at what point does someone become too confident? At what point does your confidence work against you?
What is self-confidence?
Self-confidence is the ability for people to feel good about themselves and their abilities. It’s that feeling of trust within yourself, feeling secure in these abilities and the way they are presented to the world.
People are persuaded by those who speak confidently and hold their heads up high.
Self-confidence is also one of the most crucial character traits to have. It helps us tackle our fears and doubts. It helps reduce anxiety and positively contributes towards our emotional well-being.
The benefits of self-confidence are countless, but with all good things in life, too much can be detrimental.
Understanding the difference between self-confidence and arrogance
There’s a fine line between self-confidence and arrogance. Many people fully believe they are self-confident, when in fact, the rest of the world doesn’t see it that way.
When we fall into the trap of becoming arrogant, nobody wants to be around us. Let’s face it, nobody wants to be around a smart-ass know-it-all.
How do you know if you have become arrogant and that you have mistakenly judged your arrogance for self-confidence?
This post is dedicated towards understanding the difference between self-confidence and arrogance to ensure we do not fall into the overly confident trap.
Both the self-confident person and the arrogant person are aware of their personal strengths and abilities, but there’s two key differences.
1) The confident person can see the abilities and good in others. The arrogant person only sees value in him/herself.
2) Self-confident people show their trust in their abilities through their actions. The arrogant person often feels the need to tell the rest of the world about their competencies.
From the above key differences, the main thing that stands out is that the confident person trusts and believes in themselves. The arrogant person has an inner, burning desire to share their skills, talents or looks with everyone else around them.
The relationships arrogant people get involved in is often superficial and shallow. Because the arrogant person seeks approval from others, they are also more likely to get involved in dangerous, co-dependant relationships.
In Buddhism, there is a belief that arrogance is judging one’s self-worth by means of others.
On the flip side, confidence is not a belief that one is always right or unable to fail. True confidence comes with willingness to be wrong, but also to know you’re okay if you don’t always get things right.
Over-confidence comes with a level of immaturity. You always have to be right and you always have to be better than the next person. When you’re not right, you’re not happy.
It’s as simple as that. Confidence is within and arrogance is based on external factors.
How to build self confidence
The good news is that self-confidence can be learned and built on. Whether you struggle with issues around your confidence or you’re arrogant. It’s not too late to turn that all around.
The key to building healthy self-confidence is by developing healthy habits.
As mentioned, self-confidence is a feeling of trust in your abilities. The only way you can trust your abilities is through practice. The best way to practice is when these actions become habits.
Exercise, eating well, getting quality sleep, decluttering all form part of healthy habits required to build self-confidence.
When we develop positive, healthy habits, we become comfortable performing these daily tasks.
It’s admirable to have knowledge of something. When you insist on sharing this knowledge with other people, your confidence become problematic.
Ultimately, arrogant people thrive on the approval of others. When that approval no longer exists, they are left feeling empty and worthless.
True confidence welcomes alternative perspectives. It’s rare that a confident person lectures or preaches to others about how they are wrong – those people are obnoxious, and no-one wants to be around them.
Strive to achieve self-confidence, not arrogance.