The power of negativity
He lays in his bed watching sad videos on YouTube. He desperately wants to cry, but he can’t. Somehow he feels that if he cries and let’s out all his frustration, life would be better.
People all around him are happy and the mere sight of this makes him angry.
He’s tired, alone and scared. Everyone around him can see it. He just too much of a coward to admit it to himself.
All self-help articles we read on the web, all seem to emphasize on one driving character trait – positivity.
When we’re in a positive state of being, we become grateful. We see things in be a better light. We even start looking for the good in people we previously didn’t like.
Life is one big positive ball of happiness.
What happens when all that positivity fails you and you start breaking down? What happens when life has thrown us soo many curveballs that even the most seasoned Gurus lash out and break down?
Life doesn’t always play out as we might have hoped.
We night have lost a loved one. Perhaps we’re angry at ourselves or someone else.
What if our attempts at being helpful and maintening a positive attitude only slapped us in the face? It caused us hurt and pain. People start taking advantage of us and positivity becomes more harmful than helpful.
The power of negativity
Because of everything we’ve been taught, people avoid negativity like the plague. Negativity will only do us more harm than good and brings on nothing but bad energy and events. For this reason, we fake smiles, we try to still be that good person we strive to be.
But at what point does positivity actually do more harm than good?
Unrealized emotions find a way to escape and the longer we suppress them, the worse the after effects will be when it does surface.
This post is dedicated to the power of negativity and how your negativity drives your positive attitude.
Before you go on reading; if you’re thinking, “Please don’t tell me this is another post on positivity!” then I’m sorry to inform you, but it is.
That’s just the thing. Even in negativity, there is positivity.
Take a second to think about some of the best moments you’ve lived. Think of the smiles and happiness associated with those times.
Now ask yourself the question, what makes those moments so memorable? What made this the happy moment that stood out for you?
It’s those moments of negativity that made the moments of positivity so special.
Let’s use a simple example to elaborate:
David comes a very wealthy family. In fact, he’s so wealthy that he often doesn’t know what to do with his money.
One day he is gifted with 10 thousand bucks from some random, unknown source.
Sure, this may make him smile a bit, but what’s the chances that he would have the same feelings of relieve as opposed to someone that has been without food for three days, has no place to sleep and no family to turn to?
Because the homeless guy has been in such a bad space financially, he would appreciate the money a lot more than David would, that has always had money.
Our negativity can be amongst the most powerful emotional tools we have to help us realise what’s really important to us.
Negativity is really positivity in disguise. It readies us for those good happy moments, it makes us appreciate these moments and treasure them.
Instead of avoiding or running away from negativity, embrace it. It’s really just there to amplify our happy moments when they do eventually arrive.
It’s okay not to be okay. Negativity is really just positivity in disguise. Now that’s a comforting thought, isn’t it?
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